The Unknowable Other #24 January 15, 2018
No matter how much we love someone, how well we believe we know their heart, we can never really know other. Yet it is this desire, to know what we intuit will complete us that drives relationship of all kinds.
There is a yearning to fill the hole that all humans feel. It is quelled for a time but never truly healed, the ache like a phantom limb remains no matter the companionship or the amount of material goods we have at our disposal, we can never really grasp on the surface of life that which is missing inside.
It is a beautiful dance this search for relationship, it can also be painful. No matter the profundity or length, all relationships end, it is the pulse of life. This is the natural course of creation, maintenance and dissolution. We know this intellectually and still we are driven to seek that which is eternal, that which will complete, fill the hole and quell the ache. So the search continues or we give up, believing it is simply the lot of all humans or at least ones like us, to be alone. This ache is what sets us on a course to find a deeper knowing.
Know Self says yoga. Actually, many traditions say it, the poets and writers say it, artists and scientists say it, people of all stripes hope for it. We are driven to know.
What is it that animates you? Is it possible to know that, to experience it? This is the ultimate relationship and truest meaning of yoga both as that which joins and as a conscience act of contemplation. To know that which animates you is not naming it, you may name it what you wish, that is as we know, the mind’s job. It is not predicated on belief of any sort, though you may hold whatever belief you wish; nor is it allegiance with a grouping of any kind other than humankind.
What is it that animates you? Know this source and be connected to that which animates, whatever you name it, everything.
Duality, the binary system, is the nature of reality, yet we long for union wholeness. To combine any two things requires skill, nuance and great subtlety. So we practice.
The non-dual, that which is in union, complete, arises from the dual. We cannot overlook or bypass this realty to reach the wholeness we seek. To do so keeps us at surface, renders inauthenticity and is ultimately unsatisfactory. So many levels! We seek them all, but always the highest first.
Capture The Fort! We have many goals in life and we can think of each of them as separate mines, one of gold, one of diamonds, etc. This ancient teaching states, rather than trying to conquer each gold or diamond mine, (each separate facet of awareness), or demand that a single relationship fulfill our deepest yearning, capture the fort (unite with the Source) and rule over it all. Absolute Consciousness is the ruler of the entire relative world and the source of wholeness.
That is what the practice of Neelakantha Meditation does. It rapidly shifts our perspective and the experience of our lives. Align with the cosmic sequential source and all falls into alignment like metal shavings to a magnet.
We yearn to be fully realized humans. This implies knowing one’s self, not just the social persona we present to the world but our whole, truest self. We can never really know other but we can know our self and in that, all other relationships are served. To meditate is to know one’s whole self.